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We bring many benefits, good ideas and much useful information to the bachelor.  Consider it a kind of club for single men, whether lifelong, or born again bachelors.  (No pole dancers however, and the only tips you can leave are ones that help your fellow single man).

This site will help upgrade your lifestyle, offer topics and tricks to be your bachelor best, and generally nudge you in the VIP direction of enjoying your life without the aggravation or alimony payments that spring from being married…or having been.

Your host, having learned from the mistakes of others in his 35 years as a New York divorce and family law attorney, has remained a life long bachelor, and enjoyed a peaceful and prosperous existence thereby.

A regular article contributor from 2008-2015 to one of the largest James Bond lifestyle websites, having lived and/or traveled to Mexico, Germany, Singapore, Korea, Costa Rica, Denmark and the Bahamas, he searches and researches to bring the bachelor the VIP treatment he deserves, from others, and from himself.

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So get comfortable, grab an adult beverage, read the postings that follow and join us on our journey. As always, if you have a useful contribution to make to your brother bachelors, please comment.

Yours,

W. ADAM MANDELBAUM Esq.

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Make Up Your Mind

Here is an edited version of an article of mine that first appeared on jamesbondlifestyle.com

THE BOND BRAIN—THUNDERBALL

 I have selected perhaps the only passage in the novel THUNDERBALL wherein we get a glimpse of the Bond Brain.

Here’s the quote from a conversation Bond has with Domino, (the sister of the pilot killed by Largo’s men) during dinner:

“I make up my own mind about men and women. What’s the good of other people’s opinions?”

Each one of us has unique experiences . Each one of us has a different degree of intelligence, tolerance, intolerance, passion, or sangfroid.  Given the uniqueness of our makeup, Bond’s advice makes a great deal of sense. Make up your own mind, and don’t be overly influenced by the opinions of others.

Perhaps you are in sales.  Other salespeople have opined that Company X is a bad prospect, or a tough sale, or some other negative thing.  Yet, the unique you may feel differently, and obtain a different result than that predicted by your peers.

With respect to a bachelor’s potential romantic partners, same thing.  One man’s beauty is another man’s stimulus to a lifetime of celibacy.  One man may like the adventurous type, and another the homebody. Neither are wrong. Neither are right.  It is an individual taste matter, and as long as you are acting in accordance with your own unique set of parameters, you are doing fine.

There are of course times when other people’s opinions do count.  Politics for example.  Here we can count on them usually being wrong.  Consumer marketing is another arena where the opinions of others are paramount.  What does that lead to?  Budweiser beer and McDonalds.

So whether it’s business, booze or your choice of bordello, keep your own counsel, and remember the above words of  Bond.

You will be a better bachelor for it.

 

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The Bachelor Reads

How about a spooky spy story for your summer reading?  Just the thing to darken a day at the beach, or put a shiver in you on a hot night.

DARK JUSTICE features one of the most interesting villains in spy fiction: the sorcerer spy.

Von Zauber, the wealthy Neo-Nazi sorcerer and industrialist is back again!

He has fully recovered from his injuries sustained in his adventures in the first book, RED PHOENIX RISES.

This time he is working for Chinese and Cuban intelligence, fronting as a Palo Mayombe priest in New York, committing magical murders, and frustrating the police and the FBI alike.

One man, a broken down attorney with flexible ethics will oppose him, in a search for love, renewal and Dark Justice.

Public Domain Movie Time 3

Sometimes a man regrets being married. Sometimes he comes up with a creative way of fixing the situation.

In the classic public domain movie, THE HOUSE ON HAUNTED HILL, Vincent Price, while hosting a party, makes good use of a marionette to end a marriage.

It’s great fun, brought to you by the master of B- Movie gimmicks, William Castle.  See it for free on Youtube.

Vincent Price contemplates regaining his bachelorhood in House on Haunted Hill

The Well Read Bachelor

Are you a fan of cold war spy novels?  The realistic kind by an author who was actually there?

Check out DETACHMENT ECHO  

Detachment Echo is a novel based on historical fact.

During the Cold War there was hard evidence that American POWs were being shipped from Vietnam to Eastern European “facilities” for medical experimentation.

It was covered up.

In Echo, a US Counterintelligence agent, sent to a border listening post to investigate drug abuse, bears witness to a chain of events that prove American POWs were being held in Eastern Europe.

He risks his life to reveal a coverup that goes all the way to the White House.

The screenplay version of Echo was up for nomination for a Humanitarian Award in an international contest. The author was an electronic spy during the cold war who served in some of the venues where Echo takes place, including NSA HQ.

If you like your spy thrillers written in a cinematic style,seasoned with reality and accuracy, you will want to read DETACHMENT ECHO.

ON THE THRONE

Ah, a man and his easy chair.  

They are often inseparable.

After a hard day’s work, the bachelor settles in on his own home throne, lights a pipe or cigar, and contemplates the meaning of life…or at least has a beer and binge watches Baywatch reruns.

The chair dates back to ancient Egypt, and the recliner was first reclined upon by Napoleon III.

The king of recliners is of course the La-Z-Boy, which in its upholstered form, was patented in 1930.

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The Bond Brain-From Russia With Love

Here’s a post that I first wrote for jamesbondlifestyle.com which is a site I recommend you visit,(after you visit this one of course).  It deals with some lifestyle advice that is tailor made for the bachelor.  It was part of a series called THE BOND BRAIN, which looked at several of the novels, and extracted words to live by. Enjoy!

THE BOND BRAIN—FROM RUSSIA WITH LOVE

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We continue with the Bond Brain as evidenced by quotes from the Fleming novels. In this installment, we not only quote 007, but the late and lamented Darko Kerim, the Brit’s man in Istanbul in From Russia With Love.

Let’s start with an enlightening quote from Darko.  In speaking with Bond, Darko confesses “I am greedy for life.  I do too much of everything all the time.” 

Words to live by if you are not too old, but if you live by them for too long, you will never get to be too old. Don’t worry, most of you reading this have plenty of too much time left.

Sooner or later one realizes that the only thing we have at the end of life’s journey, besides a terminal condition that will kill us, is our memory of life.  What we did, what we didn’t, what we are grateful for, what we regret.

You want to max out on what you did and what you are grateful for.  You want to minimize the regrets of what you never did.

In order to do that, you have to follow Kerim’s sage advice. Know what it is like to over drink, over smoke, over…well you can figure that one out.  Don’t do it all the time of course, but don’t always limit your excess to moderation.

While you’re drooling on your shoes in the nursing home, you want to be able to wax nostalgic about the time you had the fifteen hookers and a kilogram of marmalade at that seedy Copenhagen railroad hotel.  You want a smile on your face as you reminisce about the two quarts of Japanese Whiskey you drank while pissing in the streets of the Ginza.

As a sage once said, nothing succeeds like excess.

Speaking of regrets, let’s quote Bond here. “Never job backwards.  What might have been was a waste of time.”

Words also to live by.  So you never wrote the great Armenian novel, you never climbed the big rock candy mountain.  So what?  Focus on what you have done, your triumphs, your more interesting tragedies.  Follow Kerim’s advice, and you won’t have much need to listen to Bond’s above thought.

Here’s another one from James.  “Now from months of idleness and disuse the sword was rusty in the scabbard and Bond’s mental guard was down.”

Now, the obvious symbolism of the above we will leave to those whose sex life is intimately connected with audio visual equipment.  But the old saw about how a rut is just a shallow grave is true.  Routines and routine thinking can leave you rusty, and if we listen to Kerim, we know it’s better to burn out than rust.

Examine what you have been doing, thinking. Is it just the same old same old, or is there a bit of innovation of improvement each day of your life?  There should be if you are living the James Bond Lifestyle, (which is the ultimate bachelor lifestyle).

Follow the above advice, and nobody will be asking you “What lunatic asylum did they let you out of?” (As Bond said to Grant in the movie).

FOUR HOUR WORK DAY

No bachelor worth his suit wants to work harder than he has to.  Submitted for your approval is

THE FOUR HOUR WORK DAY

Time savings ideas for business and pleasure that the larger portion of the workers of the world can unite in using.

It goes contrary to some of the accepted wisdom out there, and offers a unique view on the mini-vacation as opposed to the mini retirement–which for many is not practical.

The principles of time savings are discussed and analyzed, and it is all done with a touch of humor and easy readability.

Written by your humble servant who was a lawyer that made his living by selling his time, which thanks to the principles of this book, I no longer have to do.  Buy it on amazon in the kindle store.

THOMAS CROWN AFFAIR

One of the all time great cinematic inspirations for the bachelor and the bachelor lifestyle, is the 1968 movie version of

THE THOMAS CROWN AFFAIR

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Steve McQueen, the king of cool, plays the rich playboy bachelor with a taste for bank robbery, and Faye Dunaway plays the insurance investigator out to get him.  Their cat and mouse game turns them into lovers, but she still is out to get her man, and not in a matrimonial way.

This is the version to see.  The 1999 version with Pierce Brosnan and a rather ugly woman as the insurance investigator, does not rate, IMHO.

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Smooth, flavorful, a great stand alone shot, or good for mixing. Reasonably priced, unreasonably good.

Make your next vodka martini—whether shaken or stirred—with Luksusowa, it means luxury in Polish, it tastes that way too, in any language. A must for the bachelor at happy hour, or anytime it’s martini time.