You may have seen the sites on YouTube, you may have heard some passing reference to “Men Going Their Own Way” or MGTOW.

There are different degrees of MGTOW proponents, from the practical to the psychotic.  A journey through YouTube will quickly show you the spectrum of these “loners with boners” who are not gay, but are looking to be happier, by avoiding the usual snares of the femalus domesticus.

The MGTOW movement is populated by people of the male persuasion who have realized, that in Western society, the man is no longer on top, but a second class citizen; a purse of fortunatus for women, who is most unfortunate when buying into the concept of settling down and getting married.

You know marriage: that legal relationship where two people come together and agree to engage in future legal proceedings where the man in the relationship gets financially eviscerated, and kept a stranger to such children as the marriage might have created. (Talking traditional marriages, folks, where opposite sex types get to oppose each other in the halls of injustice).

I have enjoyed on a temporary basis, many women from many different countries in my long life.  I have never married, nor to my knowledge fathered anything more living than a hangover.  Fortunately, I practiced divorce law in New York for some thirty five years, and was not a fan of some political hack in a black robe telling me how much my freedom was going to cost.

Time after time, I have seen good, decent men, who did not cheat on their wives, who had their nose to the grindstone, who stepped up fully to the role of father, who then got royally screwed in the courts because one day the wife fell in love with Raul, the pool boy, or felt that her true freedom lay in pottery making in Taos, New Mexico. (Not literally, but you catch the drift).

The MGTOW men realize that life is not a dress rehearsal, and that married life has a more than fifty-fifty chance of totally fucking up your future.

Some MGTOW men become monks, others just want to engage in monkey business with women, without putting a ring on their lady’s finger, and a ring through their own nose.

So check out some MGTOW videos and see what you think.  Remember, if a bachelor didn’t know more about the nature of women than a married man, he would be married.

Got an opinion on the subject?  Leave a comment (but keep it polite).

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Any VIP bachelor worth the title, has either a dedicated room as a home theater, or a cinematic corner of his living room where there is a large screen TV and the appropriate sound equipment.

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To add to the ambience, consider decorating the nearby walls with movie posters.  It adds to the home theater experience.  For a fine example look to Bond, James Bond at right.

There are multitudes of movie posters available through Amazon, so explore by clicking on the image, and wander around the various offerings for you to find the perfect posters for your home theater experience.



Fortunately for the VIP bachelor, the only patter of little feet he hears around his pad, is that of his own.  When lounging around, when enjoying a fine cigar wrapped up in an elegant smoking jacket, one also needs elegant slippers.  It makes for a complete picture of relaxed indulgence.

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No pink bunny footwear, no plaid abominations, but the real deal…a velvet slipper.  It is an indulgence, true, but then what is the VIP bachelor life all about, if not indulgences?  The image at right is but one suggestion for your feet when in relaxation and smoking mode.

Click on the image, and wander around the offerings at amazon to wrap your feet in the bachelor luxury they deserve.

Your feet will thank you.





While you are enjoying a fine cigar, think about dressing for the occasion.  A smoking jacket makes an elegant addition to your wardrobe and your smoking pleasure.

It can also serve you while entertaining at home, for an upgraded look.

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Yes, it is retro playboy bachelor attire, and isn’t that dandy?  Classics become classics because they are classy, and a smoking jacket fits the bill perfectly.

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Bachelors must not only look good, but they should also smell good, without being obvious or overpowering.  One of the oldest colognes, the stuff that Napoleon used to bathe in, is 4711.

This light and refreshing scent has been around for centuries.  It makes a great body splash after the shower, and it’s the kind of subtle scent that tells those in the know that you are a first class bachelor all the way.

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If you’ve never tried it, now would be a good time to get introduced to this fine fragrance.

A Rose is a Robe

The dressing gown is a classic piece of traditional bachelor attire.  It is ideal for lounging around the bachelor pad while in pajamas, or when entertaining some special soon to be significant other.

In the old days at home, they took off the suit jacket to relax, and put the dressing gown over their shirt and tie and pants. (WTF???) But that’s what they did.  That may be a tad too old school for today’s man.

You’ve seen it in the old movies, perhaps you own some kind of terry cloth abomination, but we are talking the dressing gown, not the bathrobe. Save the flannel plaid stuff for Saturday morning cartoon watching. The dressing gown upgrades your personal style at home, and isn’t that what we are aiming for while home alone or not alone?

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A great trademark for class dressing gowns (and other sleep related wear) is Derek Rose.  Take a look at a fine example:

Enter through the .gif shop at right and take a gander at these Roses that do not have any thorns. Style and comfort…a happy marriage for the bachelor.



Here is another look not every bachelor can pull off.  The ascot. You probably want to be at least thirty five, although there is no legal age of consent on this one.  The not so humble ascot sends a message:  you are a man of wealth and taste (or at least taste) and you are not necessarily related to Thurston Howell III.

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When a tie is not binding, when you want to put a little more anti-sprezzatura in an open shirt, consider the ascot.  You might look like an aging retro playboy, and your problem with that is?

I have worn one many times at many different occasions, and all I have received are compliments.  It helps if you have a little gray at the temples, and a very nice white shirt and blue blazer to frame the ascot.

You will either shun it or love it.  If you love it, why not explore the possibilities on amazon. Many styles to choose from, so click on the image above and start necking.


Watch Out

We are often told, and your humble blog host believes, that women notice our shoes and watches.  They broadcast our economic and personal “class.”  You don’t have to spend a fortune on a watch to leave a good impression.

Below are a few suggestions that will add to your image capital, but won’t break the bank. (They can be purchased at amazon, where I have an affiliate relationship: you don’t pay more, I get a small commission).



For many bachelors, ’tis the season to start freezin’.  Besides covering your head, one of the most important things you can do to retain body heat, is cover your hands.  Ergo, gloves.

Now there are, of course, a wide variety of gloves.  But our bachelor, being a man of “wealth and taste” (hopefully) knows that not all gloves are created equal.  He wants gloves that are not only functional, but convey his sense of classic style.  You will get noticed, you will get compliments.

Submitted for your approval: DownHolme Leather Cashmere Lined gloves.

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If you look around, you see many men dressed up in fine suits and shoes. But, when it comes to gloves, many will wear any old thing that keeps hands warm.  Don’t you be that guy.  Explore the dress glove choices on amazon through the image link above.


Oldies but goodies: Spectator Shoes.  Those two tone kickers that put the jazz in the Jazz Age, and can jazz up your wardrobe for the spring and summer.  You too can be that sharp dressed man when you put these on your dogs.  They’re not just for swing dancers.

You can find many different styles on amazon, in a variety of two tones, but below is one of the classics in the realm of Spectator Shoes.

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