“A dandy is a clothes wearing man, whose trade, office and existence consists in the wearing of clothes.” -Thomas Carlyle in Sartor Resartus
Well, old Tom got it partially right, but he missed a few nuances. Dandyism, that desire to be exquisite in appearance, to be perfectly groomed and graceful is a means of self expression.
The attention to textiles, texture and tailoring which the Dandy advocates is not only a salute to oneself, but it is a testament to a conception of being immaculate in public, so as not only to NOT offend, but to enhance the public beauty of the well dressed man that every girl is crazy about, according to St. Z Z Top.
The VIP bachelor knows this, and practices this. He knows that the devil is in the details for the Dandy.
Bottom line past all the fancy lingo: you get treated better when you look better than Joe Sixpack. You want to appear to be Carl Cognac.
For inspiration and edification check out this book, I AM DANDY
It’s time to take a look at how you dress yourself, how your place of residence looks, where you work during business hours, and where you lurk after the work day is through. What you eat, what you sleep on, who you schtup. (Or should that be whom?)
Perform a rigorous thorough self-examination, right now; (although the colonoscopy may be saved for a later date, where you can get VIP treatment at the imaging center).
Get out a piece of paper, and your fanciest pen. (No don’t use the bloody computer, or the tablet, or your cell phone, we want this to be a tactile experience for you. Do it the old fashioned way). Make friends with your pen again.
On your paper, make two vertical columns. One is for what you like about your environment, your job, your social life, your wardrobe, vehicle, etc. The second column is for what sucks about being you, or being around you.
Be brutally honest, because prior to a cure, we must have an accurate diagnosis.
Once you’ve done that, it’s time to take steps to unfuck you.
Baby steps; which brings us to the venerable doctrine of Kaizen. (The Japanese always have a name for it, don’t they?) Kaizen, for the uninitiated, is Japanese for “change for better.” It is the art of causing change by making small and regular modifications to existing circumstances, until a significant improvement over time is realized.
That’s what our intelligent would be VIP bachelor does.
Let’s take a look at your appearance.
You’ve made your two column sheet, and you have discovered that you dress for shit. You could be the cover model for Schlump Quarterly. You have to change yourself from schlumpy the dumpy chump to that sharp dressed man that every girl is crazy about.
One step at a time, though tiger, like the kaizen way say.
If you are not bleeding chips, you might have to start real small. Iron your shirt, if you don’t usually. Wear better socks. Shave more often, or regularly trim such facial hair as you have intentionally grown. Shine your shoes regularly.
Yes, there are bachelors of all ages that seemed to have neglected these simple basic matters. (You, yes you by the monitor, the one with the dirty wife beater and four days stubble. I’m talking to you!)
If your pockets are full, go splurge on the beginnings of a whole new wardrobe, after you have seen examples of what sartorially is best for your physical type.
As a VIP bachelor, you are no doubt concerned with how your personal appearance defines you as a man of taste (if not wealth), and how your living quarters demonstrate your style and appreciation of comfort.
What you don’t need to be concerned with in either case, is the “need” for new, nor the rationality of paying retail—when you can do better.
Enter through the thrift shop. Where used doesn’t have to mean abused, and items you purchase don’t have to be considered a “rescue.”
But you have to be particular where you go thrift shopping. You want to go to those shops located in or near the wealthier areas. The one percent throws out or donates all kinds of furniture and clothing goodies. Now it’s your turn to give them a good home.
I have scored tons of designer ties for a couple of bucks a piece, and some great leather furniture and other choice upholstered items on the cheap. Look great, cost a fraction of new.